Monday, 30 March 2020


AMƆƆ ƐMƐRƐ OSARO OLLORWI, ƆNƐ EBO ELEME LANGUAGE CENTER Ͻ'Ͻ OCHŨSƐ NSÃ “ELEME COUNTING SYSTEM” ALA ƆTƆϽ ELEME, ALODE ƐDƐRƐ ACHU-RE-ESIRA'O EGETA RƐ Ɔ'Ɛ Ɛ'ϽRϽ OSO AGBA 2019
Ɔwajuiye!
Niniini be ɛgbɛrɛ egeta nɛɛ oku Eleme. Ebe ɛbɛrɛ egeta tĩrũ enu re ka nasã ɔ'ɔni nnini. Ɔbari abere jiɛnsi wee sai egeta rii nnini bãrã bũrekeɛ ɔnanaa bai titɛ ebo olo wee puma nɛɛi. Anyɔ ana ɛdaamɔ ɛbai rɛ wa kukula ɔbɔ ɔ'ɔni. Mma wii owe ɛdaamɔ obaa. Ɔwajuiyɛ!
Nwi mga chu ntS nnɔɔ wimà owé Ɛmɛrɛ Gregory Ollor bãrã ɛdaamɔ oku rɛT kara jɔɛnwɛ bT ete. Mma wii owe! Mga chu ntS nnɔ wimà owe ɔnɛ re eka bT Eleme Lokal Gɔfámɛt, Hon. Barr. Philip Okparaji. Mma wii owe Ɛmɛrɛ Eleme King Dr Philip Osaro Obele. Mma wii owe ɛmɛrɛ ɔ'oɛ ɔ'chũsɛ nsã nnini,Ɛmɛrɛ Gomba Okanje; mma wii owe ɔnɛ ochurɛ O'E'La Obor Eleme,  Chief Elder Israel Abbey; mma wii owe Ɛgbɛrɛ Ɛmɛrɛ Okori Eleme, King Dr Amb. Appolus Chu; mma wii owe Ɛmɛrɛ Ͻwa Eleme HRM (Mrs) Evenly Ada Gokpa; mma wii owe ebũrɛkɛɛ ndo bãrã mba rɛT ojui ju nwɛi ɔkarũ ochũsɛ nsã nnɔɔ. Ͻwajuiyɛ!
Mga chu ntS nnɔɔ kama ɛdaamɔ oku ogbo Eleme Language Center re ke rã jijii tĩrũ be enaa kɔɔ ekã Eleme achã nɛɛ nsi. Mma ka ɛdaamɔ oku rɛ ɛnwɛsɛrĩi ɔbɔrũ be emɔɛ kɔɔ o'ĩntĩtɛ nnɔɔ abã ako. Mma kɔɔ, ɔwanaienu! Ɔbari akásɛiye!
Eleme jũjũ nwɛ oso ɛkarabee enu. Eleme tSa ajɛ ekarabee ɔnanàá rĩi nnyɛ naarĩ rɛT ɛdɔ akaa. Obui bãrã onu obui dɔrũ be echichia oso ebo bĩi nnyɛ kara chã nɛɛ nsĩ wee obui ka bãrirũ. Ogũrũ obui oku Eleme dɔrũ echichia jɔnwɛ be enu ka chãri.
TT nsã nnɔɔ, “Eleme Counting System” be emɔɛ kɔɔ oku Eleme naa gbo mpɛm-mpɛm onu obui rɛT ɛchuɛ nama ogũrũ enu tStS be ekèré ekèré ojui nnyɛ kara naã; jijima oku rɛT ɛchuari obui namaa enu tɛmɛ odo enu, ofu echii ɔwa, ogbi enu, ɔchã ochira bãrã nnãrã nnãrã.
Ekã Eleme bãrã Eleme Language Center
Ekã Eleme be ekã rɛT Ɔbari chu nɛɛi ɛbai rɛT ke re be oku Eleme kɔɔ nnyɛ achuri nyamaansi, wee re chuɛ nama ɛdaamɔ enu. A'mmamarã agba 1970, Eleme Language Center dɔnsi bee ɛmɔɛ kɔɔ Ekã Eleme achã nɛɛ nsi wee chu o'ĩntĩtɛ nyɛ ajɛ ogũrũ ekã oso eNigeria bãrã oso ebo. RɛT wai na ajɔ ntito, wee ɔbɔ bai dɔdɔ ra rũ. RɛT wai sTɛ wee chusɛ M'I'A OSŨNA bãrã NNYIMƐSÕ bãrã ƐSÕ ELERA. Ogũrũ nsã nnɔɔ dɔri oso eChɔɔchi bai. Rida bai re ele bãrã rɛT ɔbɛrɛ dɔri oso eSukulu. Ewo eka eRida rɛT ke re wai sTɛi we re ka lesɛ adT kɔɔ oka nwɛsɛi ɔbɔrũ bee ɛkTT chusɛ beri: Ekã Eleme, Nsã Ɔdama Ɔnɔɔnɔ Aa Bii,  Nsã Ɔdama Elabi Abee Ogũrũ Enu bãrã ogũrũ nnãrã nsã rɛ ɔbɔ dɔriru ntito yaba.

Abɔrũ ɛnaa kɔɔ rɛT nyã kɔɔ Eleme Language Center rɛ gbogbo ɔtɔɔ ntito rɛ ɛwiiɛ ɔ'ɔ ntito (office), bãrã ogũrũ enu ntito tɛmɛ Tebulu, ɛgãrã, kSmputa bãrã ogũrũ nnãrã enu rɛT abɔrũ etSɛ ɔ'ɔ ntito. Soso, ɛgbɛrɛ ɛgbɛrɛ enwinwi Eleme nwɛsɛi ɔbɔrũ Eleme Language Center.

Nwi mga ka ɛdaamɔ obaa kɔɔ ɔwanaienu!
Ɔwajuiyɛ!
Ɛmɛrɛ Osaro Ollorwi
Chairman, Eleme Language Center
08036694027

Tuesday, 21 January 2020

Basic Things to Known Before Marrying An Eleme First Daughter


Basic Things to Know Before Marrying an Eleme First Daughter

High Chief Ollorwi Osaro

Introduction

Are you in love with an Eleme First Daughter and planning to marry her? Then this is for you. Eleme First Daughters, a sect of Nigerian girls from the south-south parts of the country, are one of the most beautiful, intelligent and down-to-earth women in the world. Nevertheless, they have other unique quirks which impact their marriages considerably.

For those who have fallen in love with Eleme First Daughters  and are unaware of these other things that come with being eternally linked to them, Oku Osaro bãrã Osila Eleme, has put together this tips to help you understand your wife to be. Please keep in mind that these points are applicable to most Eleme First Daughters, but not all, like everything else, there are exceptions to the rule.

Culture and Tradition

Eleme First Daughters value their culture and tradition. This is because the tradition placed high premium on them. They are expected to be married out as virgins. They are also expected to perform certain rituals that culture placed on them such as Ɔwara Ekpáa Osila, Osí Echíi Osila, and Osí ƆkT Osila among others. They are proud to perform these rites during marriage as prove of their uniqueness, sanctity and discipline. Due to their birth order, the special rights attached to their position as firstborn daughters and what tradition demands of them, they are more expensive than other daughters of the family.

Value for Family

As family torchbearers, Eleme First Daughters have deep regard for family and so usually want to have members of their family around most of the time. Her relationship with her parents, siblings and even extended family is close knit and she will not compromise or cut them off in a hurry.

Any guy marrying an Eleme First Daughter has to keep in mind that their home will always be packed with family members gossiping, quarrelling, playing and laughing. Even if you decided to live far away from family, be rest assured that she will keep sending random things back home, will get home-sick a lot and so, will be in constant communication with her family.

Marriage and Eleme Language

Eleme daughters know how to marry but most of them are not proud of Eleme language and cannot speak the language to their children. Rather they are satisfied to speak English at any time. Even when they marry Eleme men, they do neglect the Eleme language for a foreign one.

When they marry outsiders, their children most usually speak English language first before learning that of their husband or any other language.

Unlike Igbo, Efik, or Yoruba girls to mention a few, who will speak their language to their children from day one irrespective of who or where they marry; Eleme girls will rather alienate their children from the unique Eleme traits and traditions even if they are married to Eleme men.

Care and Love

Eleme First Daughters are beautiful, intelligent and obedient, but most of all, they are very caring, hardworking and industrious.

They are generally strong women and while the husband plays the head of the home and brings home the bread, she most likely ends up being the foundation of the house: takes care of the kids, the budget, the food, the home generally. She will not hesitate to take up several jobs to support her husband and family, and she will still fulfil her wifely duty to keep everyone happy.

Religion

The people of Eleme are very religious people and their preferred religion is Christianity. Most Eleme First Daughters are brought up in strict religious homes and as such, they have the fear of God and the belief in His Supremacy instilled in them.

Even when they get emancipated from their parents, they still carry those values with them into their marriage and homes. Be prepared to go to church every Sunday, and observe religious holidays and church programmes once married to an Eleme First Daughter, they hardly compromise on this and they hardly convert to other religions.

Foods

The people of Eleme have a large variety of delicious dishes and their women are trained to know these recipes from an early age. They also have a love for their local meals and so they find it difficult to change their diet to food from other areas.
No doubt after marriage, especially if they are married to someone from another country or tribe, they can make the necessary compromise and eat other dishes, but be rest assures that they will not throw their home food completely away. They find ways to cajole their new family into accepting their local dishes and this is usually easy as Eleme meals are usually delicious and the girls are great cooks.

Soup

There are three types of soup with cultural values in Eleme of which Eleme First Daughter must in the course of your marriage introduce you to. These are Looloo Mbalo, Ebͻri Mbalo, and Ͻkwͻi Nsogũ. Each type of soup requires particular types of fish to go with, and they are meant for different occasions.
Do not mistaken Looloo Mbalo with the popular Pepper Soup. No! Looloo Mbalo is usually cooked with njijoii (snapper), nda (shynose), obui (catfish), ekoko (skate), ͻmεε (barracuda), and ekokoabura (shark) among other special ingredients. Looloo mbalo is mostly served with nja esaa (pounded yam). The yam is usually pounded into eyarayara nja esaa or ͻtãrã nja esaa and eaten with looloo mbalo. She must coach you on the technics of eating it the Eleme way. You have to learn how to mould the lumps, bore a hoe at the center, use it to fetch the soup and swallow it without the pounded yam scattering.
Ebͻri Mbalo is another Eleme soup thickened with adε-mkpͻͻ (cowpea). It is known generally as native soup and may be prepared with dried fish and/or meat along other necessary condiments.
Ͻkwͻi Nsogũ entails the preparation of enough fresh pumpkin leaves, boiled and carefully grinded in mortal. The ingredients include mgboro, esͻrͻ ͻbani, dried meat, and one of the following types of fish – nda, ekoko, obui, eboakpina or ekokoabura. This type of soup is preferred during rainy season when fresh pumpkin leaves are abundant.
Other popular indigenous Eleme soups include Mbalo Ɔkwɔi Nsogũ, I'oro Mbalo (spice with Etoo Akara or Esaa), Mbalo ƆgS, etc.
The ideal Eleme First Daughter who is married knows the temperament of her husband and selects the type of soup she offers him to sustain and promote his love and good health.

Conclusion

Eleme First Daughters make excellent wives. They are home builders and the pillar of their husbands’ success.
High Chief Ollorwi Osaro

NDÈLÉ




NDÈLÉ PROCESSION


NDÈLÉ

HIGH CHIEF OLLORWI OSARO

Introduction

Ndèlé is a customary provision that allows a woman to manifest her personal wealth by publicly transferring part to another woman for the purpose of conferment of the prestigious title of Ɛmɛrɛ Ɔwa with all the prominence which custom grants to such a person.  It is a deliberate action by a woman to enrich another. The Eleme Culture designed Ndèlé as a traditional means of Economic Empowerment and Wealth Transfer among the female folks.  In transferring wealth, Ndèlé has helped empower many couples and give autonomy and self-sufficiency to several families in Eleme. 

Purpose of Ndèlé

The established process of economic empowerment and wealth transfer known as Ndèlé has hitherto transformed the lives of many families. It is also an attainment for social recognition and status conferment among our female folks. Ndèlé ensures that the title of Ɛmɛrɛ Ɔwa cannot be assumed overnight without being formally confer with it, after due process and especially meeting the minimum requirements of Otora Ndèlé.
The benefactor, i.e., the woman performing the Otora Ndèlé must examine herself fit for the exercise and buoyant enough to meet all the requirements. She must carefully select the beneficiary, who in most cases will be her daughter, junior sister or niece.

Material for Otora Ndèlé

The list of material for Otora Ndèlé is endless as new and expensive things are introduced from time to time in line with changes. However, the following are prerequisite: Different Varieties of Yams, Cocoyams, Sugarcane, Beans, Pepper, salt, palm oil, Pumpkin, One Plantain Sucker, One Basin of Garri, Big Dried Fish (known as ete njira), and a female goat. Also to be included are various sizes of aluminium pots, plates, basins, axe, kettle, matchet, trunk boxes, bicycle, trinkets, gas cooker and cylinder, sewing machine, trays, tripods, cups, mortar and pestle, sieve, cutlery and so on.
When the materials for Otora Ndèlé are assumed to be complete, leading women in the community will be invited to inspect all the materials which will be laid out in a room. The women qualified to carry the materials are compound members, relations of the celebrant, members of her age-group and other female members of the community. That is, the more the materials, the more the number of women to carry them.  

Ndèlé Song

And apart from the bicycle which may be rolled along with the entourage, every single item will be carried by a woman on her head as they sing the Ndèlé song:
Ndèlé Etoo                                          Hey yaa hey
Ndèlé Esaa                                          Hey yaa hey
Ndèlé Ojaku (Ojakpo)                         Hey yaa hey
Ndèlé Onwie                                       Hey yaa hey
Ndèlé Njae                                          Hey yaa hey
Ndèlé Akpikpe                                     Hey yaa hey
Ndèlé Abã                                           Hey yaa hey

Ndèlé Day

Otora Ndèlé is usually performed on Ɔbɔ and it is never carried to a widow, spinster or a woman not currently married to a man.

Ndèlé Procession

Only a married first daughter who have acquired the Ɛmɛrɛ Ɔwa title leads the NDÈLÉ procession, first round their own community to announce their departure and then to the recipient community. One of the leaders will carry a heavy metal gong which she will sound monotonously as they walk along. This will continue until the entourage reaches their destination and is received by members of the age-group or friends of the husband to the recipient.

Reception Rites

Custom demands that both the recipient and her husband must hide themselves in nearby compound and remain there until they are sent for, while their friends will help the entourage to settle down. When the entourage has finally settled down, the friends of the couple will now help them to come and see the gift items which will be announced to them as they move from their hiding place to their own house.
In the spirit of welcoming the entourage all the necessary rites will be performed in the recipient’s house before they will begin their journey back home.

Conferment of Ɛmɛrɛ Ɔwa Title

The arrival of the entourage back home begins another round of celebrations by the celebrant who joyfully receives the entourage and praises them for safe delivery of all the items. After a period of singing, dancing and merriments, the leader of the Ogbo Ɛmɛrɛ Ɔwa of the community will formally announce the emergence of a new Ɛmɛrɛ Ɔwa and the celebrant in response will thank all present for honouring her by admitting her into the Ɛmɛrɛ Ɔwa Eleme Hall of Fame and wish them safe journey to their various houses.

Sunday, 28 July 2019

Personal Security in Present Day Eleme: A Paper Presented to the Youths of the Redeemed Church of God, Aleto Eleme by Osaro Ollorwi on Monday 12th May, 2019


Personal Security in Present Day Eleme: A Paper Presented to the Youths of the Redeemed Church of God, Aleto Eleme by Osaro Ollorwi on Monday 12th May, 2019


Introduction

Before delving into the rudiments of personal security let us briefly describe insecurity; thereafter examine what security is, its origin, the importance of personal security in present day Eleme and conclude by advising ourselves on friendship selection and some qualities of true and lasting friendship.

What is Insecurity?

 Insecurity is the tendency to feel fearful, anxious, unsafe, and apprehensive regarding present or future situations or circumstances.

On the other hand, the philosophy of security is concerned and associated with assets protection, crime prevention and loss prevention.  The time and space met for this lecture will not permit us to go into the rudimentary process of explaining assets, crime and loss in security.  It is assumed that we all have the basic knowledge of all these security terminologies.

Origin of Security

The origin of security has always been traced to the Holy Bible. The entire Christian Bible is concerned with the following:

a.       How God protected Believers’ lives and properties yesterday;

b.      How He is protecting them today; and

c.       How He planned to protect them tomorrow and in eternity.

In the beginning God revealed the essence of security. He kept Adam and Eve and their family in a secured environment with all protective measures put in place – in the Garden of Eden. Adam and his family were only required to observe the basic security measures by obeying simple instructions and keeping themselves and properties out of harms’ way. But, this reliable security arrangement was breached when the mole inside allowed the enemy access, which resulted in deceit, lies, criminal conspiracy, and murder.

The cumulative consequences of the above include:

1.      Separation of God from Adam;

2.      Ejection of Adam and Eve from the beautiful Garden of Eden;

3.      Withdrawal of security from Adam and his family;

4.      Exposure of Adam and his family to varied security threats;

5.      Assassination of Abel by his brother Cain, an abomination;

6.      Cain did not only became a criminal at large, he declared wanted and death penalty pronounced  on him; and

7.      Crime, violence and loss became institutionalised in the society.

 

The aim of God for taking man and putting him in the Garden of Eden to work (develop) it and take care of (protect) it; Gen. 2:15 was defeated. The thief stole their peace and shattered their security; he brought envy and bitterness into the family, killed Abel, pursued Cain into exile and destroyed the first family, John 10:10. Let us heed the warning to “Be alert, be on the watch! Your enemy, the Devil, roams round like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.  ” 1 Peter 5:8.      

 

Situation on Ground in Eleme

For some time now, the mass media have been agog with horrifying news of cold-blooded murder, kidnapping, armed robbery, and sundry crime-related reports. These mind-bogging news items that we are constantly bombarded with are the sad reflections of our daily experiences as a people, so much so that citizens and residents awaits each day with some replicated, unsure whether the next day would meet them alive.

The police on its part operating with limited manpower, technology and other vital resources are finding it very difficult to protect the citizens and residents. Every year, violence ends the lives of thousands of young people across the State. Their families are left to cope with the loss of a life barely lived and to face the future over-shadowed by violence.

The military regiment in Eleme is stack in-between delving into pure police duties or performing its core constitutional functions; thus slowing them down each time they swift into action. The military are not trained for policing, neither are they equipped for crowd or traffic control. Providing “aids to civil authority” when called upon to do so temporarily doesn’t make them law enforcement agency.  

The dart of real-time information is not only reducing the competency of our troops but also rendering them handicap. Unfortunately, it appears the criminals have more real-time information than our security agencies courtesy citizens and residents whom the security agents are working tirelessly to protect. 

The terrain is unknown to the security operatives coupled with the absence of streets name, unidentified roads and other undefined landmarks across Eleme.

Guns in Eleme

The dastardly killing of over 40 people between 2013 and first quarter of 2019 by cultists and the daily unlashing of mayhem on the communities by these hoodlums speaks volumes of how much we are trapped in the whirlpool of violence.  It will be improper to name the victims of cult-violence in recent times in Eleme. But, these people are not supposed to die untimely. These youths whose parents work very hard to support their families are not supposed to wind up in body bags with their parents, relations and friends weeping over a tragedy that is too great and too final ever to overcome. Nor, are many of our youngsters supposed to endure their adolescence choking on the guilt and desire for revenge that comes when you watch your brother shot down by a cultist.

There are no more wars in Eleme or between Eleme and any of its neighbours. It is guns now. The number and sophistication of handguns in Eleme has doubled. Our youths too often resolve their trivial arguments by shooting one another to death. Often, the victims and the perpetrators are too young to even realize that death is not a television stunt – to be done and undone in a twinkling.

Despite the high level of poverty, illiteracy, unemployment, ignorance, underdevelopment, and above all, ungodliness in the area, it is estimated that over 500 of local and foreign made handguns are now in circulation in Eleme.

The key word here is “circulation”. Guns don’t stay where their owners put them. They exchange hands. Our youths know where to get these guns and they brag openly how easy guns are to be obtained. They borrow guns, steal guns, or buy guns for paltry sum. Statistics confirm that young people in Eleme have no trouble obtaining guns; and they carry more sophisticated arms than even the police. Thus, in Eleme, as in many Nigerian cities, a bloodbath is drowning thousands of young men who are supposed to live good productive lives – long lives.

It is for these reasons that the government, the police and those concerned with security have made the clarion call to the civil populace to assist the police with relevant timely information to check crimes and to apprehend criminals.

This message is no less important as we gather to discuss ways of obviating the menace of cultism, violence, armed robbery, kidnapping and other life-threatening crimes. Cult violence related crimes have indeed graduated from a tumour to a full-blown cancer in Eleme; and it is only the experts who can cure our society of the scourge of cultism. Cultism is a public health problem that is fast decimating a generation of our youths.  

Cultism, Women and HIV/AIDS in Eleme


Apart from the mind-bogging cult-related violent deaths in Eleme, the impact of cultism on women and future of Eleme is worrisome.

 

Women play both active and passive roles in cult activities and they suffer the most from cult violence. They are the mothers, aunties, sisters and daughters as well as initiates of these cultists and cult groups respectively who are trapped in an unending web of cult violence. Their roles depends on who they are to an individual cultist or cult group but many involve supplying of information, provision of food, ordinances, ferry of weapons across boundaries, and leading of special operations.

Women are also agents of Cult-Initiations. Cult groups are known to have sex with young women in turns as part of their initiation. That accounts for a renowned medical doctor in Eleme saying that Eleme is on the verge of extinction.  He estimated HIV/AIDS prevalence in Eleme to be far above Rivers State average of 15.5 per cent. He lamented that if nothing is done and quickly too, in the near future the population of Eleme will be highly depleted. 

Although, women remain a minority of street cultists and perpetrators of cult violence, they increasingly suffer the greatest harm. They are faced with specific and devastating forms of sexual violence; they are the first to be affected by infrastructure breakdown as they struggle to keep families together and care for the wounded; and many are forced to turn to sexual exploitation in order to survive and support their families. What next?

Managing Personal Security in Eleme


Personal security management is assessing the security risks around you, developing strategies to prevent or mitigate threats that can harm you, your family and property. Some of these threats are cult or terrorist attacks, kidnapping, robbery, rape, fires or break-ins. It is also concerned with designing emergency response plans should these events occur; assessing programme effectiveness and familiarity with the acceptable security protocol.

Knowing Dangerous People


 The first step to managing personal security is to know dangerous people. It is not easy to learn how to spot a dangerous person. You need to learn to listen to and trust your instincts when something a stranger says or does makes you feel as if you are at risk of harm. Dangerous men exhibit behaviours that communicate their belief that they are justified in what they do. In addition a dangerous man can have absolutely no intention of harming you physically, but in other ways be it emotionally, sexually or criminally.

 

Understand Risky and Dangerous Actions


Listen to your instincts and learn how to spot a dangerous person. Dangerous people look just as normal as people who are not a threat to you or others. Their danger to you does not have to include physical danger. They can be a threat financially, spiritually, emotionally, or sexually. Control is an example of danger sign. If someone wants control over you, mentally, economically or emotionally, this is a warning sign. Also, beware of lies being used to gain dominance.

Walk away or push the person away if his physical actions or verbal communications tell you he is dangerous to you. Even though society has taught you to be polite and accommodating, when someone is dangerous and you are picking up on this, you can be rude as you rebuff his advances.

Also, act proactively when you are out at night. If you are walking through a parking garage or down a dark street, have your keys interlaced between your fingers in a tight grip should you encounter a man you don't know. If a man is following you, look for an open business so you can seek help. If you carry mace, make sure to have the kind that does not freeze in cold climates.

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Work with your family, in your neighbourhood, and in your community.

Recognize that violence has many causes. Some are immediate, e.g.:

a.       A specific argument,

b.      Easy availability of a weapon,

c.       A situation in which an aggressor thinks violence will bring quick rewards,

d.      An anger that sees no other outlet.

Some are less direct for example:

a.       A community tolerance of high violence levels, reinforced by:

1.      Violence in news and entertainment media. Some are

2.      Individual inability to see another way to settle disagreements

3.      Peer pressure that measures or boosts self-esteem through violence.

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1.      Make yourself, family and things safer from violence a priority.

2.      Work with your own children, with other kids you care about, and with teens and adults you care about to reduce the risk that you or someone you love will fall victim to violence. In other words:

 

a.       Children should learn not to hit, kick, or bite.

b.      Children must know the real consequences of violent events and entertainment.

c.       Teach children how else a conflict might have been settled, what the angry person might have done instead, what unseen or unspoken consequences violence might have.

d.      Let children lay out their thoughts about violence. This helps them learn how to think through this and other issues.

e.       Encourage your child to approach you about a real or possible danger. You may be a neighbour, an aunt or uncle, or a grown-up who happens to be nearby. Suddenly a child comes to tell you something is wrong. How can you handle it helpfully?

f.       If the child has found a weapon or a possible weapon or describes some other immediate danger; go to the scene at once, if you’re not putting yourself at risk.

g.      Children should avoid name-calling and teasing. These can easily get out of hand, moving all too quickly from "just words" to fists, knives, and even firearms.

h.      Teach children that bullying is wrong; help them learn to say "no" to bullies and to get adult help with the situation if need be. Remember that words can hurt as much as a fist.

i.        Take a hard look at what you, your family, and your friends watch and listen to for entertainment—from action movies to cop shows, from soap operas to situation comedies, from video games to music lyrics. What values are they teaching? Do they make violence appear exciting, humorous, or glamorous? How do characters solve problems? Are the real-life consequences of violence clear? Set clear limits on TV viewing and provide active, positive alternatives for free time.

j.        Teach children basic strategies for personal safety to prevent violence and reduce their risk of victimization.

k.      Help them learn and practice common courtesies. "Please," "thank you," "excuse me," and "I am sorry" help ease tensions that can lead to violence.

l.         Emphasize the importance of being drug free. Research shows use of alcohol and other drugs like Tramadol, Codeine, Marijuana, etc., is closely linked with violence, including the use of guns and other weapons.

m.    Encourage children to stick with friends who steer clear of violence and drugs. Make your home a comfortable place for these kids to gather; help them find positive, enjoyable things to do.

n.      Remind children of simple self-protection rules not to go anywhere with someone they (and you) don’t know and trust; how and when to respond to phone calls and visitors if you are unavailable, how to deal with adults (or other children) who approach or touch them inappropriately, what are safe routes to favourite neighbourhood destinations.

o.      Rehearse what to do in urgent situations, like finding a weapon or being approached inappropriately by a stranger or seeing something wrong happen.

p.      Help your children to both learn and practice ways to keep arguments from becoming violent.

q.      Encourage young people to tackle security problems. Urge them to find out:

1.      How they can learn simple strategies to prevent crime against themselves and their friends;

2.      How groups can settle disagreements without using fists or weapons; and

3.      What drug-free, alcohol-free positive activities are available for teenagers?

 

 

 

Personal Security – Choose True and Lasting Friends

What is friendship? Friendship means the attachment of one person to another marked by mutual affection and trust, intimacy and love. Because many of us do not know the true meaning of friendship we fall into wrong hands in the name of friendship.

As Christians, choose your friends wisely. Prov. 22:24,25. James 4:4. Select your friends well. Be a companion of all them that fear God, and of them that keep God’s precepts. Ps.119:63. In accordance with Proverbs 2:20b, walk in the way of good people, and keep the paths of the righteous. If you walk with wise people you shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed, (emphasis, mine), Prov.13:20. When a particular friend of yours failed to be ointment and perfume to rejoice your heart, the Holy Bible advised us to change that friend, Prov. 27:9.

Qualities of True and Lasting Friendship

If your friendship lack any of the following qualities, please look the other side:

1.      Compassion – Job 6:14a

2.      Forgiveness – Prov.17:9, 1Peter 4:8

3.      Supportiveness – Prov. 17:17

4.      Initiative Prov. 18:24a

5.      Discretion Prov. 25:17

6.      Loving Counsel and Correction –  Prov. 27:6a

7.      Consideration – Prov. 27:14

8.      Loyalty – Prov. 27:10a

9.      Encouragement – Prov. 27:17

10.  Teamwork – Ecclesiastes 4:9,10

11.  Unity – Amos 3:3

12.  True Understanding – John3:29

13.   Self-Sacrifice – John 15:13

14.  Open and Honest Communication – John15:15

15.  Unselfishness – Rom.15:1,2

16.  Mutual Concern – Philippians 2:4

17.  Mutual Edification and Inspiration – Colossians 3:16

18.  Positive Peer Pressure – Heb. 10:24

19.  Love – 1 Peter 4:8

 

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