Basic Things to Know Before Marrying an Eleme First
Daughter
High Chief Ollorwi Osaro
Introduction
Are you in love with an Eleme First
Daughter and planning to marry her? Then this is for you.
Eleme First Daughters, a sect of Nigerian girls from the south-south parts of
the country, are one of the most beautiful, intelligent and down-to-earth women
in the world. Nevertheless, they have other unique quirks which impact their
marriages considerably.
For those who have fallen in love with Eleme
First Daughters and are unaware of these
other things that come with being eternally linked to them, Oku Osaro bãrã Osila Eleme, has put together this tips to
help you understand your wife to be. Please keep in mind that these points are
applicable to most Eleme First Daughters, but not all, like everything else,
there are exceptions to the rule.
Culture
and Tradition
Eleme First Daughters value their culture and tradition.
This is because the tradition placed high premium on them. They are expected to
be married out as virgins. They are also expected to perform certain rituals
that culture placed on them such as Ɔwara Ekpáa Osila, Osí Echíi Osila,
and Osí ƆkT Osila among others. They are proud to perform these rites
during marriage as prove of their uniqueness, sanctity and discipline. Due to
their birth order, the special rights attached to their position as firstborn
daughters and what tradition demands of them, they are more expensive than
other daughters of the family.
Value
for Family
As family torchbearers, Eleme First
Daughters have deep regard for family and so usually want to have members of
their family around most of the time. Her relationship with her parents,
siblings and even extended family is close knit and she will not compromise or
cut them off in a hurry.
Any guy marrying an Eleme First
Daughter has to keep in mind that their home will always be packed with family
members gossiping, quarrelling, playing and laughing. Even if you decided to
live far away from family, be rest assured that she will keep sending random
things back home, will get home-sick a lot and so, will be in constant
communication with her family.
Marriage
and Eleme Language
Eleme daughters know how to marry but most
of them are not proud of Eleme language and cannot speak the language to their
children. Rather they are satisfied to speak English at any time. Even when
they marry Eleme men, they do neglect the Eleme language for a foreign one.
When they marry outsiders, their
children most usually speak English language first before learning that of
their husband or any other language.
Unlike Igbo, Efik, or Yoruba girls to
mention a few, who will speak their language to their children from day one
irrespective of who or where they marry; Eleme girls will rather alienate their
children from the unique Eleme traits and traditions even if they are married to
Eleme men.
Care
and Love
Eleme First Daughters are beautiful,
intelligent and obedient, but most of all, they are very caring, hardworking
and industrious.
They are generally strong women and
while the husband plays the head of the home and brings home the bread, she
most likely ends up being the foundation of the house: takes care of the kids,
the budget, the food, the home generally. She will not hesitate to take up
several jobs to support her husband and family, and she will still fulfil her
wifely duty to keep everyone happy.
Religion
The people of Eleme are very religious
people and their preferred religion is Christianity. Most Eleme First Daughters
are brought up in strict religious homes and as such, they have the fear of God
and the belief in His Supremacy instilled in them.
Even when they get emancipated from
their parents, they still carry those values with them into their marriage and
homes. Be prepared to go to church every Sunday, and observe religious holidays
and church programmes once married to an Eleme First Daughter, they hardly
compromise on this and they hardly convert to other religions.
Foods
The
people of Eleme have a large variety of delicious dishes and their women are
trained to know these recipes from an early age. They also have a love for
their local meals and so they find it difficult to change their diet to food
from other areas.
No doubt
after marriage, especially if they are married to someone from another country
or tribe, they can make the necessary compromise and eat other dishes, but be
rest assures that they will not throw their home food completely away. They
find ways to cajole their new family into accepting their local dishes and this
is usually easy as Eleme meals are usually delicious and the girls are great
cooks.
Soup
There are three types
of soup with cultural values in Eleme of which Eleme First Daughter must in the
course of your marriage introduce you to. These are Looloo Mbalo, Ebͻri
Mbalo, and Ͻkwͻi Nsogũ. Each type of soup requires particular types of
fish to go with, and they are meant for different occasions.
Do not mistaken Looloo
Mbalo with the popular Pepper Soup. No! Looloo
Mbalo is usually cooked with njijoii (snapper), nda (shynose), obui (catfish), ekoko
(skate), ͻmεε (barracuda), and ekokoabura (shark) among other special ingredients.
Looloo mbalo is mostly served with nja esaa (pounded yam). The yam is
usually pounded into eyarayara nja esaa or ͻtãrã
nja esaa and eaten with looloo mbalo. She must coach you on the
technics of eating it the Eleme way. You have to learn how to mould the lumps,
bore a hoe at the center, use it to fetch the soup and swallow it without the
pounded yam scattering.
Ebͻri
Mbalo is another Eleme soup thickened with adε-mkpͻͻ
(cowpea). It is known generally as native soup and may be prepared with dried
fish and/or meat along other necessary condiments.
Ͻkwͻi
Nsogũ entails the preparation of enough fresh pumpkin
leaves, boiled and carefully grinded in mortal. The ingredients include mgboro, esͻrͻ ͻbani, dried meat, and one of the following types of fish – nda, ekoko, obui, eboakpina or ekokoabura. This type of soup is
preferred during rainy season when fresh pumpkin leaves are abundant.
Other popular indigenous
Eleme soups include Mbalo Ɔkwɔi Nsogũ,
I'oro Mbalo (spice with Etoo Akara
or Esaa), Mbalo ƆgS,
etc.
The ideal Eleme First
Daughter who is married knows the temperament of her husband and selects the
type of soup she offers him to sustain and promote his love and good health.
Conclusion
Eleme
First Daughters make excellent wives. They are home builders and the pillar of their
husbands’ success.
High
Chief Ollorwi Osaro
